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YOU SUSPECT YOUR SPOUSE OF CHEATING

Posted by Gladys on November 19, 2007 at 2:15 PM

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Here are some ways to tell if your spouse is cheating. Some of this will also apply to live in significant others and some may apply to those romantically involved who are not living together, but primarily I am addressing spouses infidelity in this list below:


 Spouse is less available for family get togethers
 Spouse is emotionally detached from you & decreased sexual activity
 Spouse has taken on new work or hobbies that take him or her away from home example
suddenly going three times a week to the gym.
 Clothes are new, different or have unfamiliar scents of perfume or cologne
 Excessive errands are unusual times of the day or night
 Unexplained purchases on bank statement or ATM withdrawals
 Cell phone minutes excessively used to one phone number
 You find receipts for purchases that are not brought home
 Larger cash withdrawals at the ATM. Cash back at Stores where purchased items are much less on receipt.
 Notes, phone numbers, email addresses stuffed in wallet or clothes
 Hang up phone calls
 Spouse has secret drawer, file, keeps cell phone records hidden
 Internet web browser history list of porn or dating sites
 Spouse changes or adds new email accounts
Spouse clears out email and browser history
Cell phone texting is nearly constant but you cannot find anything usual on the phone.  Spouse is most like using an anonymous texting service
such as Text Plus or Kik
Spouse holds on tightly to the phone, sleeps with it, takes it into the bathroom never leaves it unlocked
Some other areas of concern:
 
Spouse accuses you of having an affair.
Spouse says you are imagining things, paranoid or you are crazy when confronted with possibly cheating.
Spouse starts arguments for petty reasons and then storms out of the house.
Spouse starts attending family or business gatherings and events without you.
Spouse has extra set of clothes in vehicle and takes showers "at the office" or more frequently.
Spouse starts hanging around with new friends, "boys" "girls" night out, old friends don't come around as before or act uncomfortable around you.
Spouses coworkers or secretary are evasive when you call asking for spouse.
Spouse wants to try new things in the bedroom.
Spouse wants more sex or none at all.
 
Please feel free to add to this list, as there are many other signs. Keep in mind that a few of these signs may be easily explained but when you have many of them at work in one situation chances are the spouse is cheating.
 

SOME ADVICE IF YOU SUSPECT CHEATING
 
DON'T, I repeat don't confront the spouse. I know that is hard not to do, you have every right to know and expect to get an honest answer but why not get all the facts first? Confronting your spouse with one or two pieces of evidence is either liable to get him or her very angry that you distrust them so if they are innocent or make them shrewder in their infidelity because you caught them. Then it will cost you more time and money to get at the truth.
 
You want to have all the evidence possible for a variety of reasons. One if your goal is to save your marriage you may be able to with the help of a Professional Private Investigator find out that the spouses lover is a con artist, cheat, or criminal, has secrets hidden from your spouse and you can use this information as leverage against the lover to win back your spouse to reality and to you. If you show your hand too soon your spouse may alert the lover and both of them will cover up their tracks better.


Also if your spouses lover is a person of wealth and influence chances are you may be able to sue them for alienation of affection. In situations where a doctor has cross the line professionally with a patient [your spouse] or an employer or supervisor is using their position of authority over your spouse, you may be able to sue them for big bucks. You may want to do this if the marriage is over for sure and you want some monetary satisfaction. In many cases the lover will drop the affair anyway and you can make him or her pay for breaking up your happy home and family. By hiring a good PI you can secretly gather all the evidence on this lover and the activities with your spouse and maybe even others to use in court. SEE WHY ITS A GOOD IDEA TO WAIT TO CONFRONT THE CHEATER?


In other situations waiting is good, what if your spouse was considering cheating but had not done it yet, you may be able to win him or her back over to an intimacy with your that will preclude the cheating without the nasty confrontation and fighting that is sure to ensue. Your spouse may later tell you they had a temptation or offer to cheat and they refused. It will make them feel good to reveal this to you as you act surprised and relieved.
It is alot easier for your attorney to win your case in court if you follow his advice and the advice of your Private Investigator. Any good PI is going to insist you get yourself an attorney as soon as possible and will be willing to work with that attorney to assist you with your case. A Professional PI should remain respectful of your spouse when discussing the situation with you and should not resort to name calling etc, since your goal may be to save your marriage.
 
NEVER NEVER NEVER Confront the lover during the investigation stage. There may be a time for this but doing it prematurely can grossly backfire on you, the lover can accuse you of wrongdoing, like stalking, assault etc and all you have done is damage your case. Do provide your PI with as much information as you suspect about the lover and be willing to pay that investigator to dig up everything they can on this person and also conduct surveillance on him or her. Chances are this person has wrong motives anyway having an affair with someone elses spouse and these motives can later come into play in court or in confronting your spouse and or the lover.
 
The VERY BEST THING YOU CAN DO is to hire a Professional Private Investigator who is going to personally oversee your case from start to finish. You need someone who is compassionate, caring, knowledgeable about legalities in your state, so that any investigation is done in a professional and thorough manner within the scope of your local laws. Be careful of big name companies who may be hiring young inexperienced investigators and rather go for a smaller company, managed by a small team or individual who is going to personally invest time with you and not nickle and dime you but give you an overall service within your budget that targets your specific needs.
 
TRUST your PI he or she is there to give you the very best service and advice possible. Let the PI take the lead in the investigation. Do provide ongoing information but understand you are too emotionally involved and not trained for this sort of thing. The PI will know based upon the investigation what type of investigative strategy to use, when the best time to conduct surveillance is etc based upon the information your provide about your spouses daily routines as well as any information the investigator discovers. It sometimes takes time and caution to learn patterns and new behavior of cheaters, gamblers, or substance abusers.  Use a GPS tracker and let your PI monitor it some before spending money right away on surveillance hours.  Let your PI work with your attorney for protection of the work product, confidentiality and issues of discovery.  
 
Finally, cheaper is not always better, investing in a Professional Private Investigators services could save your marriage, save you thousands in settlement arrangements and or help you gain hundreds of thousands in an alienation of affection, help your children have quality of life in custody arrangements and give you peace of mind.
 
For assistance please email glad4jc@gmail.com  or call 601-480-3181.
 
 


 
 

 

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4 Comments

Reply Gladys Brierley
9:30 PM on November 26, 2008 
Reba, It is not a good idea to take matters into your own hands as you say. Too many things can go wrong if you attempt to follow your spouse and verify the alleged affair. It would be better for you to hire a professional if at all possible and if not a good friend may be able to help you. Even that is risky. People have a tendency to react in unpredictable ways when they are caught having an affair. Also spouses who catch cheaters tend to become very emotional and things can heat up rather quickly and harmful things can happen. Please call me or email if I can be of any assistance. I am sorry I missed this comment or I would have responded sooner.
Reply reba
6:15 PM on October 28, 2008 
Is it a good idea to take matters into my own hands? Is it a good idea for me to follow my spouse around and his possible "affair" and try and get info on them. I would really want to see for myself. I find it really hard to believe the rumors that are going around. Everyone tells me he is having an affair and that is why he moved out of the house....and wants a divorce. We have been married 13 years and in July he moved out. Said he hasn't been happy for years. I raised his two daughters as my own and we have a son together.
Reply anonymous
12:47 AM on June 7, 2008 
Thanks for your question Thomas. First I want to say I am very sad for you and your family that you are going through this. You are in a very tough spot. You are old enough to see what is happening between your parents and yet it really is between them, although it affects all the family. I suggest you find someone in your family or church if possible to talk with about your feelings and concerns about the family and the way your mom is being treated. Also seek some counsel as to how you can be supportive to your mom, without appearing to be taking sides and try not to confront your father at this time. Let your mom make the decision what course of action she wants to take, if she wants someone to help her with this, give her my email address or phone number or tell her about this site. You can also talk with your older sister about it and she may be able to talk with your mom and see how your mom want to proceed. If you dad is having an affair with his best friends wife, he has violated two important relationships in his life and may be already on edge if he is feeling guilty. Confronting him at this point may interfer with your mom's plan to handle this situation. <br> <br>There are ways to find out if your dad is cheating of course but it sounds just from that text message you already know something is goin on. If there is anything I can do to help you, please email me at <a href="mailto: Glad4JC@aol.com ">Glad4JC@aol.com </a>or call me at 601-480-3181. Maybe I can help you find a support system there where you live.
Reply thomas
10:38 PM on June 6, 2008 
i am a 15 year old boy living with a brother sister and both of my parents <br>my father who has recently in the past year been getting increasingly more aggresive and aggrevated has been taking trips back to our old hometown of new york to sell my grandfathers house. last time my 20 year old sister went up with my father to help out....not once did my father even try to sell the house,or even attempt to stay at the house.finnally my sister read his phone texts that stated "i love u baby good night" to his best friends whos in jails wife. my parents have been together for 25 years and now more then ever he has verbally and mentally abused my mother. <br> <br>please help me with some advice on how to get through this and if there are any ways i could find out if it is a fact that he is cheating

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